Believing in yourself and being your own cheerleader doesn’t come easy.
Everyone needs someone else to validate their decisions and choices. Ever wondered why that happens? It’s probably the imposter syndrome rooted deep within that makes everyone question themselves. You may think it’s a bad thing, but it’s not. In fact, it’s good to not let overconfidence take over you.
But some days you could just use that extra push, right? And for those days we often have our friends, family members and others to cheer us on. But unfortunately, that’s not always the case. And in no way is it their fault. Everyone is dealing with their own life stressors, their own assignments and their own goals. They can’t be there for you at your beck and call.
So, who’s going to be that positive driving force behind you? You.
Yes, that’s right. You. If you can cheer someone up and be there for them during their difficult moments, why can’t you be there for yourself?
It might seem a little difficult, but these tips may make it easier for you.
Create a gratitude list
As human beings, we always want to achieve more, to do more and to have more. But with this mentality, we often fail to see the importance of the things we already have and the things we’ve already accomplished.
So, start being grateful for the things you have done and achieved which you’d only wished for a few years back. Just do a quick browse of your life and update yourself with it.
You wanted to get into a good college, you did! Be grateful for it.
You wanted to save a little money and managed to make your own dinner instead of ordering takeout. Be proud and grateful for it.
Life will seem a lot more fulfilling when you realize all the things you already have.
Have pep talks with yourself
Every morning, make it a point to tell yourself how amazing you are. It will make a huge difference.
It might sound a little funny, but trust us when we say that starting a day on a positive note plays a huge role on how the rest of the day pans out.
Embrace the main character energy within you
You need to understand that this life is your own movie playing in the theaters. You, and only you, are the one that matters here. So, take a break when things get heavy, flip your hair whenever you feel like it, and know that you are the one who gets to decide what makes you happy.
Stop making comparisons
It’s normal to feel a prick of jealousy when you see someone else get that internship you were aching to get or buy a concert ticket for an artist you wanted to see. It’s not because they are doing something right and you are doing something wrong, it’s simply because it’s their time and soon it will be yours.
Until then learn to be happy for others. We’re sure that positive outlook in life will only bring better things for you in the future.
Give yourself credit
You don’t realize how important and difficult even the smallest of things you did today are. Give yourself credit for having done the simplest of tasks and watch how that changes the way you go about life.
You made breakfast? Just wow.
You didn’t forget to flush the toilet? Imagine how happy your roommate will be.
You took your dog out on a walk even though you didn’t feel like it? You placed someone over yourself and that’s a mature thing to do.
Make your own cheerleader routine
This can be whatever you want it to be. It doesn’t need to be an expensive skincare routine. If you like sitting by the lake, take some time and walk to it. If you love dogs but can’t have one, visit a dog park.
Cheer yourself up by doing things that actually boost your serotonin. No one else but you knows what actually makes you feel at peace.
It can even be doing laundry. Whatever it is, just make sure you take the time and go do it.
Sometimes intrusive thoughts take over. You badger yourself and make a note of everything you did wrong. During times like this take a moment to centre yourself and just breathe out the negativity. Like Hannah Montana might say, “everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days.” What’s important is to remind yourself that these moments pass and your likely to experience a better day ahead.
And if you need a little help, Headspace might be your best friend during the storm that takes over your your mind.
Being there for others is often easier than being there for yourself, but if we try, we all have it within ourselves to be our own cheerleader. Don’t wait for your friend to pick up your call and tell you what you’re doing right, do it yourself, be your own cheerleader.
We’re rooting for you!
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