Surviving your twenties in 2020.
When I pictured my twenty-year-old self, I envisioned something much different than who I am today. I dreamt of a lavish lifestyle; living on my own, eating out every night (semi-true now that Uber Eats is a thing), surrounded by a bunch of friends and attending the hottest parties. Essentially, I wanted to be Lauren Conrad from The Hills.
Now having turned 20, I’ve since discovered life doesn’t play out like a reality TV show. Kris Jenner isn’t around every corner to guide me and my career. There are lessons we sometimes have to learn the hard way.
Here are 20 lessons I’ve learned in the past 20 years:
1. Being alone is OKAY
Alone time is needed for your growth; it is self-care. Learn how to be your own best friend.
2. You will outgrow clothes, friends, and attitudes
Hips get bigger, friends come and go, and your mindset will evolve. Don’t fight it; evolve like a Pokémon into your best self.
3. Body pillows are game-changing
Buy one as soon as possible. Your back will thank you.
4. Kindness is your superpower
Use kindness to strike up a conversation. Make someone’s day by being kind. Be kind when you want to be rude (especially then). Kindness will take you places.
5. Prepare for the future, but live in the present
Life is consistently moving and changing. Allow for flexibility to accommodate new opportunities in the future, as well as enjoy the now.
6. Your parents are almost always right
Except about not eating raw cookie dough. Eat as much cookie dough as you want.
7. Long-distance is doable
With friends, relationships, and family, it may seem obvious to forgo new experiences for the sake of comfort. But do not let the fear of losing the ones you love because of travel hold you back from actually traveling.
8. Therefore, travel as much as you can
Whether you are going three hours away or 13, leave the comforts of your city and explore!
9. Enjoy the little things
Just like in Zombieland; while surviving zombies or finals, celebrate even the smallest of wins.
10. Take as many pictures as possible
Not just for the ‘gram or bragging rights, but for the memories. Keep the ugly ones too. When you’re reminiscing with your friends, you won’t care about the double chin.
11. Everything is temporary
Whether good or bad, everything will come and go. Enjoy the good moments and wait out the bad. You’ll be okay!
12. Say “no” sometimes
No one will hate you. If they do, they’re not worth saying “yes” to anyways.
13. Gossiping is not cute
Build your friends up, ask about their lives and goals, how their dog is doing; do literally anything besides talking badly about others, it’s boring.
14. No one actually knows what they’re doing
It’s not just you. Take things at your own pace and do what feels authentic to you. We’re all in this together.
15. Use sunscreen
Aging starts in your twenties, so slather that on sis.
16. Thank those around you
Thank them for listening, supporting you, and for being the wonderful human they are. Everyone could use a pick-me-up and loves to hear they’re appreciated.
17. Check in with yourself and your friends
With the hustle and bustle of life, we often don’t make time to really gauge how we’re doing. Check in on your mental health, and the mental health of your loved ones.
18. Naps never get old
Like ever. Always take the opportunity to nap.
19. Help others
Volunteer, help your friend move, or teach your grandpa how to text. The people around you make the world go ’round; let these individuals and your community know you care.
20. And lastly, make lots and lots of mistakes
Mistakes force growth. Take a risk; if you fail, who cares! Get back up, learn, and become the boss you know you are.
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